Learn to Love Yourself

A Perfect Fit

Sociopaths tend towards spousal and child abuse (when they

have set their sights on long-term relationships.) Since their own

needs reign supreme, they have no interest in the needs of

others, making the escalation to emotional and physical abuse

an easy one.

They're unaware of and unconcerned with others, and they can

justify their own actions at every turn.

And, after having committed an act of abuse, they utilize the victim's

own codependency--which they depended on to manipulate their

vic into a vulnerable position to begin with--to convince them that

they were to blame!

The predator convinces his/her vic that the socio's needs trump the

pain and hurt of the victim. The sense of superiority and deservedness

of the sociopath is reestablished, and the socio continues to rule the

roost...while the vic walks on eggshells and caters to their ego.

Breaking free of the socio's stranglehold on

the vic's thinking, actions, and perspective is

necessary before the vic(s) can then take action

to distance themselves and escape the cycle of abuse.

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Narcissists Illustrated: Michael Lohan

Yeah...he really went there.

Hey, there are no boundaries or shame for

a rode-hard-put-up-wet, over the hill, raging,

selfish, drug addict loser who wins "Worst Parent Ever"

awards year after year.

Really, dude?

I guess this is supposed to be
"Mid-life Crisis/Active coke-head" chique?

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'Grease' is The Word



"I consider myself less of a 'lying sack of shit' and
more of a consummate 'people pleaser.'"

Socios are successful because of one important tactic; telling  people
what they want to hear. Making them feel good so they're more easily
used...open to the socio's machinations.

A seemingly innocuous--and even desirable--helpful quality, if it
were more than a means to its own end. But it's the turning of the
worm with these folks.

Like all calculations, it's designed to fatten up the pig before
leading it to slaughter. To manipulate and draw in the target as
part of the machinations, long term and deliberate.

The more desirable and ebullient the socio makes themselves,
the more people desire to be in their presence....to trust them...
to want to be around them.

Whether the sociopath is sporting a lie or the absolute truth,
whether they believe the words falling out of their mouth or
disagree vehemently, it makes no difference. It's all about the
usage of words (or emotions or ideas) to create what's needed
for their ultimate plan.

And you can bet it doesn't involve the interests of anyone else.

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Suited for the Part

One of the most basic parts of a sociopath is that they can

'read' and suss out people--figure what makes them work,

and thereby what will also motivate them and control them.

This skill makes them great assets in fields such as managing

political campaigns, controlling offices filled with workers

(peons), and running death camps.

They can also just as easily get high on power working in

community affairs, heading up committees and being coaches

for ball teams or being on boards. Because they're willing to

take on jobs no one else wants with such gusto, there is a

good bit of having their way with the rules, since others are

unwilling to step in and take over.

And power--however much or little it may be--is the true desire

of someone who already feels they deserve to be in control

of other human beings....and will say and do anything to

get in a position to use it.

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Drawn Badly

Anotherr trait of those of us drawn to (and targeted by)

a socio or narc is someone so scarred by past hurt that

we seek out (either consciously or subconsciously) the

affections of those not capable of giving them.

There is a safety in being drawn to the unattainable and

emotionally standoffish that our self-protection seeks out.

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