Monday, December 23, 2013
Thursday, July 25, 2013
Sociopaths tend towards spousal and child abuse (when they
have set their sights on long-term relationships.) Since their own
needs reign supreme, they have no interest in the needs of
others, making the escalation to emotional and physical abuse
an easy one.
They're unaware of and unconcerned with others, and they can
justify their own actions at every turn.
And, after having committed an act of abuse, they utilize the victim's
own codependency--which they depended on to manipulate their
vic into a vulnerable position to begin with--to convince them that
they were to blame!
The predator convinces his/her vic that the socio's needs trump the
pain and hurt of the victim. The sense of superiority and deservedness
of the sociopath is reestablished, and the socio continues to rule the
roost...while the vic walks on eggshells and caters to their ego.
Breaking free of the socio's stranglehold on
the vic's thinking, actions, and perspective is
necessary before the vic(s) can then take action
to distance themselves and escape the cycle of abuse.
Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Friday, May 31, 2013
|"I consider myself less of a 'lying sack of shit' and |
more of a consummate 'people pleaser.'"
what they want to hear. Making them feel good so they're more easily
used...open to the socio's machinations.
A seemingly innocuous--and even desirable--helpful quality, if it
were more than a means to its own end. But it's the turning of the
worm with these folks.
Like all calculations, it's designed to fatten up the pig before
leading it to slaughter. To manipulate and draw in the target as
part of the machinations, long term and deliberate.
The more desirable and ebullient the socio makes themselves,
the more people desire to be in their presence....to trust them...
to want to be around them.
Whether the sociopath is sporting a lie or the absolute truth,
whether they believe the words falling out of their mouth or
disagree vehemently, it makes no difference. It's all about the
usage of words (or emotions or ideas) to create what's needed
for their ultimate plan.
And you can bet it doesn't involve the interests of anyone else.
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
One of the most basic parts of a sociopath is that they can
'read' and suss out people--figure what makes them work,
and thereby what will also motivate them and control them.
political campaigns, controlling offices filled with workers
(peons), and running death camps.
They can also just as easily get high on power working in
community affairs, heading up committees and being coaches
for ball teams or being on boards. Because they're willing to
take on jobs no one else wants with such gusto, there is a
good bit of having their way with the rules, since others are
unwilling to step in and take over.
And power--however much or little it may be--is the true desire
of someone who already feels they deserve to be in control
of other human beings....and will say and do anything to
get in a position to use it.
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
Anotherr trait of those of us drawn to (and targeted by)
a socio or narc is someone so scarred by past hurt that
we seek out (either consciously or subconsciously) the
affections of those not capable of giving them.
There is a safety in being drawn to the unattainable and
emotionally standoffish that our self-protection seeks out.
Friday, April 26, 2013
Kids who pretend to be Trayvon Martin,
dead on the ground...as a 'joke.'
Kids who witness--and participate in--rape
and then pass the film of said rape around
like a chain e-mail. And justify their actions.
And express outrage at being inconvenienced
by legal actions brought about by their evil.
Kids who spend more time desensitizing on a
p.c. than dealing with other humans.
Who relish the bloodthirsty actions of a
game, and watch deadly images endlessly
at a time when the judgement centers of their
brains haven't developed.
Harassment and bullying and deception
via social media tools. Playing with people's emotions,
'catfishing,' fake-flirting with lonely kids,
Thugs. Rapists. Connivers. Cheats.
Assailants. Murderers. Torturers.
Excessive and dangerous 'pranks.'
This is our culture, now; our new normal.
It's who we--en masse-- have become, even as the
polar opposite facade of being
well-mannered and socially well-connected
This is how we live; A world of sick, duplicitous,
self-condoning, mercenary, shameless, excuse-
making, justify-my-shit-at-all-costs world of disgusting
liars and thieves.
Coddled endlessly, given access to
everything, exposed to all manner of depravity--and,
conversely, neglected and unsupervised by equally
self-absorbed care-givers who are not developing
and exhibiting nurturing, caring traits.
IN a world devoid of personal connection,
how could we expect any other result to