Which One Do You Feed?

Because the grip and pull of the sociopath has been set up so
insidiously, once it's activated (which is generally the only time
many of us even begin to notice that 'something's not right,')
it can be difficult to come to terms with reality in the midst of
such a convincing illusion.

This is what is commonly referred to as a narcissist/sociopath's
'crazy-making' abilities. Their explanations are so good, so
quickly produced, so plentiful, and so convincing that you end up
not quite sure if your persistent, irritating unease is legitimate...
or you're confused.

Making you question yourself is what they do.

The truth, the bottom line, the unavoidable reality is that this
person who has marked you as a plaything is a horrible human
being. Get your head wrapped around that.

It doesn't matter how great an Academy Award-winning performance
they give in attesting to their concern for you, or how traumatic their
childhood was.

It doesn't matter what the balance of lies to truths is.

It doesn't matter at all what they promise or plead or explain.

They're 100% Bad News and you are not responsible for anyone
on this planet outside of self, especially when that person is a red-hot,
toxic, steaming mess.

There's a lot of bad in the world. You are not required to be harmed
by it. By spending time with a sociopath, you are actively choosing
your own downfall. There certainly isn't room enough for both of you
to thrive, or survive.

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Caution: Quagmire Ahead

Sociopaths have no understanding of actual emotions;
they understand how to manipulate the emotions of others,
like a big science experiment which they are completely
detached from.

(Well, I guess they do feel a sense of superiority...and they
feel frustrated when everything doesn't go their way.)

However, what's confusing is that the socio doesn't act
robotic or disconnected; they feign the emotions which
they know will elicit a specific response from their target.
They seem like regular people; if anything, they seem
'better' than the average person! (First Red Flag!!)

A sociopath depends on other people's adherence to
social cues and protocols to prod them into action. They
are the masters of people-pleasing, with a dark agenda.

But alas, we can't just wish this away.
Those of us who are prone to these kinds of people have
to change. Notice the pattern. Heed the warning signs.
Change the dynamic.

Instead of allowing it or being passive, we must prepare to
meet the wolves at the door. Naivete won't allow for our
survival.

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