Science, Not a Mystery

A sociopathic personality is a fixed phenomenon.

They are a black hole masquerading as a

human being.

Beautiful in some respects, dark and 'mysterious-

seeming,' and ultimately nothing of note

more than destruction and danger.

They do not change their essence

simply because of perceptions or issues

of proximity, observers' ignorance, or

passage of time.

Scientifically knowable, absolute, to be

avoided at all costs. It can only be

what it was made to be. Respect that,

and stop disregarding its nature.

Fantasizing that you can put a leash on

a sociopath or expect sincerity--or that they

will change in any fashion--is the same as

thinking you can put a black hole in a

box and tame it.

You can't wish it different; and while you

are wishing, its only concern is ripping you apart.

You wouldn't have sympathy or empathy for

a deadly force of nature, would you?

So stop making excuses for and returning

to the abuse of a narcissist.

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"Never Gonna Give You Up"

"At first he was all like...

and then he was like...."

Mind-fucking is the name of the game

with a sociopath.

Causing emotional pain, getting folks

to let their guard down, playing

passive-aggressive games to mess with

a person's head--that's all the ultimate

high for a career pathological dickhead.

They don't change; it's the grandest of

addictions to control and hold power

over other people. It's a persuasion and

a desire like no other for them.

Pretending they've turned over a new leaf

to get you to trust them (or to have

'closure') is just a new web they're spinning.

And since there's never an end to

the number of people they can target, they

don't fear getting lonely.

There's no cure for a predator.

Your love will not set them free.

Don't be the 'dumb bitch' in the movie

who goes back into the house to see

if the monster's still there.

Just pick yourself up, and...

RUN, Girl, RUNNNN!

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Torn Up

A confidence man is an exquisite study in self-sufficient organisms.
They take a person's own fears, desires, and other personal innermost aspects--
the pieces of your most basic nature, your soul--and use them as ammunition
against that person, their target.

In a sense, you're at war with yourself.
They stimulate a place in you that has never been touched--an intimacy
unparalleled--so that it not only a deeply private matter you want kept hidden,
but the embarrassment at being used in such a way is intense.

That's the violation; they prey on the innermost subliminal feelings,
and once they achieve what they want, you are left once again alone,
but feeling the loss of that false promise.

They put you in touch with your dreams, believing in the possibility,
having primal desires awakened,...and then you're left holding a bill
of goods.

But the precision of the predatory assessment, the execution, the
detachment from the sickness of what's done and the absolute dedication
to one's own survival at all costs is an admirable quality within the
sociopath. Surely there is something to be learned from dissecting their
methodology and drive, so we might become more adept at survival
ourselves.

Ruthlessness may not necessarily be a learned skill, but it's for
damned sure a useful one. At the very least, we have to stop beating
ourselves up...or allowing others to do so.

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