Alternate Reality

Unexposed or naive folks fail to comprehend how
sociopaths are not easily recognizable, nestled as they
are in the midst of their 'perfect' lives.

They are not characters in a film, filled with robotic
maniacal evil, nor obvious serial-killer scum. (Yes, most
serial killers can be categorized as sociopaths, but not
all sociopaths are serial killers.)

Anyhow, the merits of being a likable, congenial,
poised, powerful, popular, central figure should be
obvious.

Gregarious, well-connected folks have access to much
more of people's money, secrets, children, positions,
favors, influence, and so on. Plus, the icing on the cake
is that the act of misleading and using other people--through
the facade of being a good family man and regular Joe--is
a sociopath's wet dream.

Another aspect is that many highly-wrought, OCD-
controlled, manic, over-achieving socios do what they
do--like the Energizer Bunny--and become pillars of the
community (charitable, magnanimous, smiling constantly,
god-fearing and church-loving) because, you know, after all
that they have given....oughtn't they have the right to some
letting off of the steam?

Surely one thing offsets the other, right?

Should they not be afforded a blind eye to a silly little
transgression...or a lifetime of them? Doing all this good
lays down the path to getting a doorway into the good
graces of those they victimize, but it also provides a
'balance' (in their sick minds, at least) which allows them
the leeway to commit their dark deeds on the side.

An occasional naughtiness isn't such a big deal, right?
Especially since the rules don't apply the same for a
socio.

Everyone is the hero of their own story. Everyone.
And that's simply more true for a socio. The sicker you are,
the more capable you are of justifying even the most
incessant and horrific of insanities.

The longer they go without getting caught and the better they
do at their facade of goodness (achieving acclaim and reward,)
the easier they can convince themselves that what you're doing
is okay...or that they're unstoppable.

Even convincing themselves that their actions are not that big
a deal...and if people weren't so stupid, they wouldn't be able
to take such easy advantage of them in the first place. So,
really, isn't it kind of their own fault that they're being hurt,
abused, robbed, and swindled?

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A Messenger's Fate Hasn't Changed

The bitter truth can't compete with a beautiful lie.

You can't take on a sociopath because it is an intricately-veiled
massive deceit they have constructed. People like the illusion
they project.

They will hate you for speaking against the object of their affection,
for trying to 'undermine' their relationship, for making them question
someone/something that makes them feel so good, for inferring that
the listener/receiver isn't smart enough to have figured this out for
themselves--or that they were dumb enough to be fooled in the first
place, etc.

The messenger does always get shot.

You will not only give the socio/narc a chance to play the victim
in public, garnering more sympathy, but you will draw attention
to yourself and be targeted for further problems from the socio.
And you will become a social pariah because the charm of the
socio is very inspiring of loyalty in people.

Their fiction is bulletproof.

So before you think of taking on a narc's illusions publicly,
think about how defensive you would be if someone tried to
sully something you cherished. A narc's facade is all they
have...and they go to great lengths to create a serious bond
with their source.

The response is about as good as confrontational religious
remarks at a dinner party.

It's not about whether or not they deserve to be taken down
and exposed; it's about the likelihood of it happening, and
keeping yourself from suffering even further loss and difficulty.

People love their fictions.
They love their illusions.
They love being ignorant and oblivious.
People say they want the truth, but they really don't.

Most of them would rather stay in the dark than be forced to
swallow a bitter pill they aren't ready for. It's hard to see all
that invested time, energy, and trust go up in smoke; people
get crazy when the shit hits the fan. Don't get caught in the middle,
unless you're especially invested in the well-being of potential
marks/victims.

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