"Wha- happened?!?"

"Why is it my sociopath started out like a sad sack and
then this guy showed up out of nowhere?"

Socios employ a variety of tactics to snare their prey.
Many play the martyr--the long suffering hurt victim of
any number of things...bad marriage, a job that doesn't
appreciate them, a family that treats them badly, etc. 

This is to gain sympathy and tug on the heartstrings of
empathic and gullible, big-hearted people--the easiest
ones to trick. With a sad story, they can win over the
targets who want to care take of and help people.

It's part of their 'I'll be whoever you want me to be' strategy
that allows them to do whatever it takes. The only base
personality of a socio is a manipulative pathological liar.
They are essentially blank slates...empty vessels under
whatever ruse they use.

They can switch it on and off in a moment, to play victim
to one person, then walk across the room and play Big
Man to another, and then access another role to draw in
someone else. They can be a smooth operator who has
investors thinking they're a wheeler-dealer and a debonair
world traveller, or for the needy widow they become a
vulnerable guy who 'really just needs a loving touch.'

Once you see the beast, don't be fooled; That is the real deal.
Don't buy the arguments and pretenses.
Don't let your guard down again.

The monster is the real person and the 'needy soul' is the
trap they lay. You have not stumbled upon the first case
in history where the opposite is true. Quit lying to yourself.

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It's Not Unusual

When you tell the truth about someone who's evil,
it's not a matter like in the movies where everyone
cheers and heads start nodding in affirmative approval.

The person you confront doesn't say "You're right," and
set about correcting the issues.

There are no apologies, no deep and burning turning
around of one's life because of the public embarrassment.
No introspection and curiosity about how to join a
commune and make restitution.

No, in Reality, confronted con men DENY.

They dig their heels in deeper on their stories.
They act as if the revealer is the immoral one, and they set
about destroying your reputation and relationships with new
elaborate lies and shadow campaigns.

They funnel their rage at being caught into undermining your
credibility and inventing more sweeping manipulations to
sucker people. Coming clean does not occur to them.

Exposure turns sociopaths and narcissists into trapped
beasts, and that leads to rabid crazy-making. (Yes, moreso
than usual.)

They make your truth-telling into a 'patently absurd attack' and
are then, 'rightfully' filled with righteous indignation, they resent
and blame and get bombastic. They bully and intimidate and
threaten. They put up such great appearances to continue and
recommit to their lies that people think you must surely be out
of your mind.

So be wary of trying to topple one....
Even what should be their defeat they can turn their way.

Gin Wigmore - "Man Like That"

Nothing like a cautionary tale with a rocking beat and a happening video!

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Narcissists Illustrated: Lance Armstrong

A Sociopath's version of an apology is

"Why were you stupid enough

to believe what I told you?"

or

"Why aren't you smart enough to

doubt everyone and be suspicious?"

or

"You're the vulnerable and naive one;

I'm not responsible for how you respond

to my deeply deceptive machinations."

or

"You kind of asked to be abused

and taken advantage of, really."

But never,

never-ever

Never will you hear

"I was wrong."

or

"I'm truly sorry."

or

"What can I do to make it up to you?"

The 'blame-the-victim'

and
'I'm so misunderstood'

rift is the closest these guys get

to (feigned) remorse, kids!

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Trending

We are a nation of salesmen, liars, frauds, cons, cheats, and manipulators.
Lacking civility and integrity, it's every man for themselves... but with a cover story
of the 'great Christian nation' (so long as that will get you somewhere.)

A skewed sense of ego, expectation, nerve, bravado, and privilege;
the worst of the worst getting away with all manner of criminal pursuits
in between Cheshire cat photo ops and charity cover-ups.

The hubris of immoral thieves and dirt bags, loudly demanding and intimidating
with their thuggish tactics coupled with a disconnect from objective reality.
We are spawning sociopaths as our main export, and that's a short-term
'gain' that will definitely come back to bite us in the ass.

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Sell That Story!

Quickly, without forethought, answer the following;

Is this a picture of terrorism or collateral damage?

What's the difference in the two?

What you were told to think about it.

Just like our country's leaders  have the ability to

spin things and make their own reality out of life

(many a narcissist present in that group, surely)

so too is a socio masterfully manipulative in the way

they do a PR job on everyone in their radius.

No matter what's in front of your eyes, they

skillfully convince you to see what they wish.

There, there,...that's a good little sheep.

We have to learn to break the spell and

resist the charms; think for ourselves and not

be swayed by the propaganda.

Everybody's pushing a story...and

a story is just what it is.

When it looks dangerous and destructive,

why would you allow yourself to think

any other way about something?

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Science, Not a Mystery

A sociopathic personality is a fixed phenomenon.

They are a black hole masquerading as a

human being.

Beautiful in some respects, dark and 'mysterious-

seeming,' and ultimately nothing of note

more than destruction and danger.

They do not change their essence

simply because of perceptions or issues

of proximity, observers' ignorance, or

passage of time.

Scientifically knowable, absolute, to be

avoided at all costs. It can only be

what it was made to be. Respect that,

and stop disregarding its nature.

Fantasizing that you can put a leash on

a sociopath or expect sincerity--or that they

will change in any fashion--is the same as

thinking you can put a black hole in a

box and tame it.

You can't wish it different; and while you

are wishing, its only concern is ripping you apart.

You wouldn't have sympathy or empathy for

a deadly force of nature, would you?

So stop making excuses for and returning

to the abuse of a narcissist.

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