A Messenger's Fate Hasn't Changed

The bitter truth can't compete with a beautiful lie.

You can't take on a sociopath because it is an intricately-veiled
massive deceit they have constructed. People like the illusion
they project.

They will hate you for speaking against the object of their affection,
for trying to 'undermine' their relationship, for making them question
someone/something that makes them feel so good, for inferring that
the listener/receiver isn't smart enough to have figured this out for
themselves--or that they were dumb enough to be fooled in the first
place, etc.

The messenger does always get shot.

You will not only give the socio/narc a chance to play the victim
in public, garnering more sympathy, but you will draw attention
to yourself and be targeted for further problems from the socio.
And you will become a social pariah because the charm of the
socio is very inspiring of loyalty in people.

Their fiction is bulletproof.

So before you think of taking on a narc's illusions publicly,
think about how defensive you would be if someone tried to
sully something you cherished. A narc's facade is all they
have...and they go to great lengths to create a serious bond
with their source.

The response is about as good as confrontational religious
remarks at a dinner party.

It's not about whether or not they deserve to be taken down
and exposed; it's about the likelihood of it happening, and
keeping yourself from suffering even further loss and difficulty.

People love their fictions.
They love their illusions.
They love being ignorant and oblivious.
People say they want the truth, but they really don't.

Most of them would rather stay in the dark than be forced to
swallow a bitter pill they aren't ready for. It's hard to see all
that invested time, energy, and trust go up in smoke; people
get crazy when the shit hits the fan. Don't get caught in the middle,
unless you're especially invested in the well-being of potential
marks/victims.

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"Narcissists" Documentary: Revealing

A well-done, stunningly intricate delving into of the psyche and patterns.

Worth the time to watch; view it in segments if you can't get through
the whole thing in one setting.

And please pass it on to anyone you know to be involved with a narcissist or
even suspect of being involved. While dealing with the sociopath, one's idea
of what the rest of the world is all about gets turned upside down.

Some exposing of truths and tactics might just break through and save
someone's life.

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Chameleons

"Who do you want me to be?"
(I'll do it long enough to hook you!)

A narcissist will portray themselves as an expert, a super hero,

a successful person in any field broached in a discussion. But

don't subscribe to it; they're anything but objective or honest.

They follow their own agenda.

Even kindness is a ruse.

"It was like he knew what I was thinking; he said all the things

I wanted to hear."

Psychologically anticipating and then meeting  a need is
a specialty of the sociopath. You are  a tool to be used...
and if you see through their ruse then they will look to
elict empathy by playing the sympathy card, or try and
control you by raging and/or shaming you.

Whatever tools they can use, they will. Any means to an end.
That's all a human being--and their emotions--are to a socio.

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The Perfect Machine

Don't hate the playah....hate the game...right?

Objectively looking at what a narcissist accomplishes,
and completely disregarding the carnage they leave in
their wake, one can see the draw to give in to the
behavior.

Just like a shark, never tiring, always hunting, always
moving, ever the efficient killing machine, there is a
natural ease and magnificence to what the narcissist
is able to do.

If you look at life in terms of survival of the fittest and
competition, then a narcissist is a true marvel.

It's only when attempting to be sociable and civilized
that an NPD's traits come into conflict.

If we disregard character and humanity all together,
we can see that the narcissist mentality and lifestyle
is actually quite desirable and praise-worthy.

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Why Victims of Narcissists Can't Let Go

No better voice for the malignant narcissist than one who is.

(Narcissists are so loathe to admit who they are, or share their
secrets, so having Sam reveal the underbelly is quite helpful.

He says so much more succinctly--and directly--about what it
means to deal with getting beyond the lasting toxicity and
confusion brought on by a narcissist,  even after the relationship
is over.

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All The Rage

In recent years, popular culture has glamorized the
sociopath and narcissist to extreme levels, just as
prior generations lauded and idolized mobsters, cops,
drug dealers, and bank robbers.


Characters on shows such as Dexter, The Shield,
Breaking Bad, Rescue Me, The Sopranos, The Tudors,
and others have captured the imagination of the nation.


Cheering on the villain, especially those like serial killers
and emotionless murderers, rapists, and torturers, seems
the new norm. Remorselessness is in vogue.


Are people simply fascinated?
Fantasizing?
Wanting to emulate and become tougher themselves?


Despite not being able to switch gears and 'become' a
sociopath, is the recent influx in sociopathic and narcissistic
behavior somehow reflective of the culture fascination....a
reflection of a changing moral code? Or are people merely
mimicking what they perceive as power?


Perhaps cultural changes have resulted in an increase in actual
sociopathic tendencies and the TV and movie mediums are
merely accommodating that thirst for like images.

Regardless, life imitates art, and art imitates life, and a love
of inhuman behavior can never lead to any good.

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Cross Hairs

Sociopaths take a long time to figure out and recognize
for what they truly are.

They're cunning, patient...working long-range plans
with people. They're seductive and hard to read.

They're chameleons, and master liars.
They see right through to the heart of most folks,
employing psycholgical tactics and saying what we
want to hear... playing us like a banjo.

They distract you with their alluring charm, and they
don't wear emotions on their sleeves (if in fact they
have any.)

Their whole purpose is to use you..and they're quite
skilled at it. They've spent their whole lives in an inner
world of preparing and observing for how to manipulate
others and get what they want.

They actually get a joy from not only making fools of
people (and thus feeling superior,) but from any response
of pain that results.

Once you realize you're in their sights, it's probably quite
late in the game.

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