Definition of a Sociopath

Mitt Romney: Angry Under Pressure

Angry. Self-important. Arrogant. Demanding. Pedantic.
Grandiose. Condescending. Dismissive. Rude. Oblivious.

"I know what's best."

"Why won't you do what I want?"

"Are you not smart enough to defer to me?"

"You need to do it my way and then I'll be calm."

Get ready for the powder keg to go off...and this
was just the job interview. Sociopathy in action,
and NO grace under pressure. Be afraid.

Change is in the Err

A person can't feel badly for their actions towards you
(or your response to mistreatment) if they have no conscience.

They can't empathize with pain you feel in general, either...nor
be interested in what's important to you, apologize for oversights
or infractions, give support, be sincere, or provide any other normal
human response you'd find in a real relationship.

Stop wasting time trying to get attention, concern, affection,
apologies, or satisfaction from such a person.

A rock can't give blood. Forget all the fairy tales and romantic
notions regarding teaching people how to open up, love, or
otherwise respond positively to care and compassion.

Give the things you need to yourself.
No one else will care a fig for your hurt feelings, your broken
heart, your ego, or your losses.

I need to learn to stop caring so much about others and their
thoughts, rejections, slings and arrows.

I also need to stop feeling emotions as deeply as I tend to,
and as readily as I do.

Wearing my emotions on my sleeve has led to me being a target,
and so the fault weighs on me too. If I want things to be different,
I must change what is bringing about the problem. I can't afford to
be compassionate, naive, ignorant, or accepting.

I need a little more healthy distance between me and my heart.

Some would say that's excessive; that I'm allowing bad experience and
careless people impact me negatively. But, you can't keep repeating
the same mistakes, following the same patterns in life. Life is change.
Growth. Transforming based on what you interact with. Life is not ideal,
in any sense of the world.

I'm evolving as a result of my insights gained through these relations.
I can use all things for my own good--and feeling badly about what
happened changes nothing.

You're either a predator or a victim in this world, and I'm damned
tired of being a victim.

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Ann Coulter on Calling Obama a Retard

Here's a great picture of the epitome' of a sociopath. No, don't avert
your eyes to avoid a Halloween scare; she always looks this frightening.

Completely ignorant and yet pompous and pretentious, even belligerent,
all the way. Angry and frustrated and blaming everyone else around her for
her stupidity, she's a constant victim--and an outraged bitch--all at once.

It's too bad the word 'retard' is so inappropriate to use, because the
intended disrespect behind it certainly fits Ms. Coulter to a 'T'...except that
using it would be horribly unfair to actual developmentally disabled people.

She's a liar who knows full well the impact of what she did, but chooses to
take no responsibility for it (or the hurt it causes many people) and instead
again plays victim by portraying herself as someone who can't make 'innocent'
remarks without being 'unfairly' lambasted and critiqued.

You can't have it both ways, but sociopaths sure want it; Act like a brutal bully
and say and do whatever you like, and still want to be popular and unmolested.

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"What Just Happened Here?"

The fantastic James Wolk from the criminally short-lived "Lone Star."

Opposition is easy to squelch when you're in a position of power.

Convincing opponents you care, however?

Charming them so as to smile while they swallow the bitter pill you've

administered to them?

Conning them into thinking that taking part in their own demise is

their own idea?

Disarming them enough to distract them from abuse, and in fact

interpret it as acceptable?

That's mastery.

And you can bet it doesn't happen by mistake.

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Enchante'

 

Sociopaths are Masters of the flourish, providing a torrent

of special attention and excitement that their charm and

manipulation make seem as real as your own breath.

 

In the face of all these enhanced emotions and 'perfect' human

response, little else can compare (which is, after all, exactly

the point.)

 

That attention and kindness most of us seek for a lifetime
(or, conversely, never imagined could possibly be real) is
there in front of you, hand-delivered, and specially tailored.

But it isn't real. It's a facade. A scam.

Temporary insanity. And the kind of fantasy that makes
real life disappointing to come back to. (Which is one reason
people make excuses to stay with a narcissist; because the
roller coaster ride isn't always down, and the thrill of it all is
addictive.)

The relationship is not just sick in one direction; it is a
symbiotic unhealthy relation. There is a desperation and a
neediness inherent in the relationship between socio and
victim; almost a reversal of the one between host and
parasite.

Beyond the bill of goods, beyond the trance, beyond the
romanticization of even their pain and sickness, there
is truth. The sickly, neurotic, dangerous, hurtful truth that
must be confronted and accepted before detachment is
possible.

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Which One Do You Feed?

Because the grip and pull of the sociopath has been set up so
insidiously, once it's activated (which is generally the only time
many of us even begin to notice that 'something's not right,')
it can be difficult to come to terms with reality in the midst of
such a convincing illusion.

This is what is commonly referred to as a narcissist/sociopath's
'crazy-making' abilities. Their explanations are so good, so
quickly produced, so plentiful, and so convincing that you end up
not quite sure if your persistent, irritating unease is legitimate...
or you're confused.

Making you question yourself is what they do.

The truth, the bottom line, the unavoidable reality is that this
person who has marked you as a plaything is a horrible human
being. Get your head wrapped around that.

It doesn't matter how great an Academy Award-winning performance
they give in attesting to their concern for you, or how traumatic their
childhood was.

It doesn't matter what the balance of lies to truths is.

It doesn't matter at all what they promise or plead or explain.

They're 100% Bad News and you are not responsible for anyone
on this planet outside of self, especially when that person is a red-hot,
toxic, steaming mess.

There's a lot of bad in the world. You are not required to be harmed
by it. By spending time with a sociopath, you are actively choosing
your own downfall. There certainly isn't room enough for both of you
to thrive, or survive.

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