Ann Coulter on Calling Obama a Retard

Here's a great picture of the epitome' of a sociopath. No, don't avert
your eyes to avoid a Halloween scare; she always looks this frightening.

Completely ignorant and yet pompous and pretentious, even belligerent,
all the way. Angry and frustrated and blaming everyone else around her for
her stupidity, she's a constant victim--and an outraged bitch--all at once.

It's too bad the word 'retard' is so inappropriate to use, because the
intended disrespect behind it certainly fits Ms. Coulter to a 'T'...except that
using it would be horribly unfair to actual developmentally disabled people.

She's a liar who knows full well the impact of what she did, but chooses to
take no responsibility for it (or the hurt it causes many people) and instead
again plays victim by portraying herself as someone who can't make 'innocent'
remarks without being 'unfairly' lambasted and critiqued.

You can't have it both ways, but sociopaths sure want it; Act like a brutal bully
and say and do whatever you like, and still want to be popular and unmolested.

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"What Just Happened Here?"

The fantastic James Wolk from the criminally short-lived "Lone Star."

Opposition is easy to squelch when you're in a position of power.

Convincing opponents you care, however?

Charming them so as to smile while they swallow the bitter pill you've

administered to them?

Conning them into thinking that taking part in their own demise is

their own idea?

Disarming them enough to distract them from abuse, and in fact

interpret it as acceptable?

That's mastery.

And you can bet it doesn't happen by mistake.

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Enchante'

 

Sociopaths are Masters of the flourish, providing a torrent

of special attention and excitement that their charm and

manipulation make seem as real as your own breath.

 

In the face of all these enhanced emotions and 'perfect' human

response, little else can compare (which is, after all, exactly

the point.)

 

That attention and kindness most of us seek for a lifetime
(or, conversely, never imagined could possibly be real) is
there in front of you, hand-delivered, and specially tailored.

But it isn't real. It's a facade. A scam.

Temporary insanity. And the kind of fantasy that makes
real life disappointing to come back to. (Which is one reason
people make excuses to stay with a narcissist; because the
roller coaster ride isn't always down, and the thrill of it all is
addictive.)

The relationship is not just sick in one direction; it is a
symbiotic unhealthy relation. There is a desperation and a
neediness inherent in the relationship between socio and
victim; almost a reversal of the one between host and
parasite.

Beyond the bill of goods, beyond the trance, beyond the
romanticization of even their pain and sickness, there
is truth. The sickly, neurotic, dangerous, hurtful truth that
must be confronted and accepted before detachment is
possible.

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Which One Do You Feed?

Because the grip and pull of the sociopath has been set up so
insidiously, once it's activated (which is generally the only time
many of us even begin to notice that 'something's not right,')
it can be difficult to come to terms with reality in the midst of
such a convincing illusion.

This is what is commonly referred to as a narcissist/sociopath's
'crazy-making' abilities. Their explanations are so good, so
quickly produced, so plentiful, and so convincing that you end up
not quite sure if your persistent, irritating unease is legitimate...
or you're confused.

Making you question yourself is what they do.

The truth, the bottom line, the unavoidable reality is that this
person who has marked you as a plaything is a horrible human
being. Get your head wrapped around that.

It doesn't matter how great an Academy Award-winning performance
they give in attesting to their concern for you, or how traumatic their
childhood was.

It doesn't matter what the balance of lies to truths is.

It doesn't matter at all what they promise or plead or explain.

They're 100% Bad News and you are not responsible for anyone
on this planet outside of self, especially when that person is a red-hot,
toxic, steaming mess.

There's a lot of bad in the world. You are not required to be harmed
by it. By spending time with a sociopath, you are actively choosing
your own downfall. There certainly isn't room enough for both of you
to thrive, or survive.

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Caution: Quagmire Ahead

Sociopaths have no understanding of actual emotions;
they understand how to manipulate the emotions of others,
like a big science experiment which they are completely
detached from.

(Well, I guess they do feel a sense of superiority...and they
feel frustrated when everything doesn't go their way.)

However, what's confusing is that the socio doesn't act
robotic or disconnected; they feign the emotions which
they know will elicit a specific response from their target.
They seem like regular people; if anything, they seem
'better' than the average person! (First Red Flag!!)

A sociopath depends on other people's adherence to
social cues and protocols to prod them into action. They
are the masters of people-pleasing, with a dark agenda.

But alas, we can't just wish this away.
Those of us who are prone to these kinds of people have
to change. Notice the pattern. Heed the warning signs.
Change the dynamic.

Instead of allowing it or being passive, we must prepare to
meet the wolves at the door. Naivete won't allow for our
survival.

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Alternate Reality

Unexposed or naive folks fail to comprehend how
sociopaths are not easily recognizable, nestled as they
are in the midst of their 'perfect' lives.

They are not characters in a film, filled with robotic
maniacal evil, nor obvious serial-killer scum. (Yes, most
serial killers can be categorized as sociopaths, but not
all sociopaths are serial killers.)

Anyhow, the merits of being a likable, congenial,
poised, powerful, popular, central figure should be
obvious.

Gregarious, well-connected folks have access to much
more of people's money, secrets, children, positions,
favors, influence, and so on. Plus, the icing on the cake
is that the act of misleading and using other people--through
the facade of being a good family man and regular Joe--is
a sociopath's wet dream.

Another aspect is that many highly-wrought, OCD-
controlled, manic, over-achieving socios do what they
do--like the Energizer Bunny--and become pillars of the
community (charitable, magnanimous, smiling constantly,
god-fearing and church-loving) because, you know, after all
that they have given....oughtn't they have the right to some
letting off of the steam?

Surely one thing offsets the other, right?

Should they not be afforded a blind eye to a silly little
transgression...or a lifetime of them? Doing all this good
lays down the path to getting a doorway into the good
graces of those they victimize, but it also provides a
'balance' (in their sick minds, at least) which allows them
the leeway to commit their dark deeds on the side.

An occasional naughtiness isn't such a big deal, right?
Especially since the rules don't apply the same for a
socio.

Everyone is the hero of their own story. Everyone.
And that's simply more true for a socio. The sicker you are,
the more capable you are of justifying even the most
incessant and horrific of insanities.

The longer they go without getting caught and the better they
do at their facade of goodness (achieving acclaim and reward,)
the easier they can convince themselves that what you're doing
is okay...or that they're unstoppable.

Even convincing themselves that their actions are not that big
a deal...and if people weren't so stupid, they wouldn't be able
to take such easy advantage of them in the first place. So,
really, isn't it kind of their own fault that they're being hurt,
abused, robbed, and swindled?

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If They Seem 'Too Good to be True,'.....

Sociopaths possess an Insidious ability/tactic:
They build you up.
Stroke your ego.
Groom you.
Play with you.
Intentionally trick you.
Make you feel special, loved, and unique
(like everyone wants to feel.)

Then BOOM!...drop you cold.
Watch you squirm.
Your manipulation is for their
benefit...so they can feel good.
Like a cat with a mouse, they let you go,
then sharpen their claws on you,
relentlessly playing mind games.

But eventually you realize;
the whole point of building you up
was to knock you down.

When people show you who they really are,
you need to take it in, and get away from them.

YOU are responsible for caring about you.
You are responsible for not being swayed
by a smoothe talker who's saying all the right words.
You are responsible...
for discernment,
for taking action,
not accepting lies,
deciding for yourself what you are willing to tolerate.
For confronting and verbalizing your discontent
and your needs....standing up for yourself.

To accept abuse is to invite abuse.
Stop putting so much emphasis on another person.
Stop allowing yourself to be manipulated.
Start trusting your gut and not outside influences.

You can't take care of yourself and the person abusing you;
you owe everything to yourself, and nothing to a user.
There is no cure for their sickness; they feign a need and
interest in you merely to push your buttons and play on your
compassion.

See it for what it is, not what their charms tell you it is.

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