Who Better For the Job?

Talking with a friend the other night, the subject of the

'narcissist in positions of management' got brought up.

She voiced that she and her coworkers, having worked in

corporations for the last 25 years, continue to marvel at

the type of people who climb the ladder.

The disbelief that people who are so completely not

manager material (zero people skills, unliked by other

workers, no finesse, etc.) get bumped up the chain while

better people get overlooked. Not an isolated phenomenon.

Part of it harkens to erroneous messages we were sent

as kids, tainting our beliefs; The reality is that Good Guys

don't come out on top, and good things don't always happen

if you work hard enough. No matter how obviously corrupt or

ingratiating or brown-nosing...no matter how insincere and ego-

tistical and manipulative and back-stabbing...narcissists in

work situations will always float to the top.

Because all that matters is results, and the people they're

working for don't give a flip about morality or goodness.

Bottom line is all that matters in the working world, and even

a 'decent' top boss will still be swayed by the work output

of someone who stays late, obsesses over details, has no

real concerns or distractions of a loving family (or anyone

that cares about them,) and so on. They're living robots; the

perfect employee.

(Also, being abrasive is typically a tactic employed by socios

to throw off other people; mind games, pissing contest, psyching

you out, etc. They can flip it off to fool a superior and flip it back

on to intimidate coworkers.)

In fact, many times outright wrongdoing will be overlooked

and covered up for the narcissist if their work output is

deemed sufficiently worthwhile. At Citicorp in Tampa, a

sexual assault was covered up, never receiving reprimand

because the man responsible was considered 'irreplaceable.'

The military also has a history of allowing despicable vices to

some of their top minds, so long as they keep producing results.

And the draw of a heavy workload might seem incongruent with

the mentality; why do sociopaths and narcissists want to work

so much? What's the connection?

Well, in addition to being perfectionistic and self-aggrandizing

and obsessive, achievement serves as a replacement for real

emotions and human connectedness.  They will do anything

to get the kind of attention, power, and control that they relish.

They also tend to be very goal-oriented, without getting off

track with relationships, feelings, and other distractions. They

see their map of what they desire, and nothing else will stop

them. Succeeding, proving themselves, showing others up, having

a position over others; they are all rewards from the same plan.

So, long hours and extra tasks are their way of showing how

superior they are to everyone else (don't let the fake smile fool

you,) and the position of authority they get as a result is worth

all that effort. Any means to an end; they are relentless.

It's the perfect job really: who better to perform tasks than

someone without a full life of their own, someone who is not

prey to office politics since they feel no emotions, someone

robotic and unconcerned for the feelings of others, yet someone

who can mimic empathy to at least present the facade of being

professional?

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