Learn to Love Yourself

'Grease' is The Word



"I consider myself less of a 'lying sack of shit' and
more of a consummate 'people pleaser.'"

Socios are successful because of one important tactic; telling  people
what they want to hear. Making them feel good so they're more easily
used...open to the socio's machinations.

A seemingly innocuous--and even desirable--helpful quality, if it
were more than a means to its own end. But it's the turning of the
worm with these folks.

Like all calculations, it's designed to fatten up the pig before
leading it to slaughter. To manipulate and draw in the target as
part of the machinations, long term and deliberate.

The more desirable and ebullient the socio makes themselves,
the more people desire to be in their presence....to trust them...
to want to be around them.

Whether the sociopath is sporting a lie or the absolute truth,
whether they believe the words falling out of their mouth or
disagree vehemently, it makes no difference. It's all about the
usage of words (or emotions or ideas) to create what's needed
for their ultimate plan.

And you can bet it doesn't involve the interests of anyone else.

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"Zero. Zero Fucks Given."

Kids who pretend to be Trayvon Martin,

dead on the ground...as a 'joke.'

Kids who witness--and participate in--rape

and then pass the film of said rape around

like a chain e-mail. And justify their actions.

And express outrage at being inconvenienced

by legal actions brought about by their evil.

Kids who spend more time desensitizing on a

p.c. than dealing with other humans.

Who relish the bloodthirsty actions of a

game, and watch deadly images endlessly

at a time when the judgement centers of their

brains haven't developed.

Harassment and bullying and deception

via social media tools. Playing with people's emotions,

'catfishing,' fake-flirting with lonely kids,

spreading rumors.

Thugs. Rapists. Connivers. Cheats.

Assailants. Murderers. Torturers.

Excessive and dangerous 'pranks.'

Remorselessness.

Apathy.

This is our culture, now; our new normal.

It's who we--en masse-- have become, even as the

polar  opposite facade of being

well-mannered and socially well-connected

is maintained.

This is how we live; A world of sick, duplicitous,

self-condoning, mercenary, shameless, excuse-

making, justify-my-shit-at-all-costs world of disgusting

liars and thieves.

Coddled endlessly, given access to

everything, exposed to all manner of depravity--and,

conversely, neglected and unsupervised by equally

self-absorbed care-givers who are not developing

and exhibiting nurturing, caring traits.

IN a world devoid of personal connection,

how could we expect any other result to

manifest?

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If They Seem 'Too Good to be True,'.....

Sociopaths possess an Insidious ability/tactic:
They build you up.
Stroke your ego.
Groom you.
Play with you.
Intentionally trick you.
Make you feel special, loved, and unique
(like everyone wants to feel.)

Then BOOM!...drop you cold.
Watch you squirm.
Your manipulation is for their
benefit...so they can feel good.
Like a cat with a mouse, they let you go,
then sharpen their claws on you,
relentlessly playing mind games.

But eventually you realize;
the whole point of building you up
was to knock you down.

When people show you who they really are,
you need to take it in, and get away from them.

YOU are responsible for caring about you.
You are responsible for not being swayed
by a smoothe talker who's saying all the right words.
You are responsible...
for discernment,
for taking action,
not accepting lies,
deciding for yourself what you are willing to tolerate.
For confronting and verbalizing your discontent
and your needs....standing up for yourself.

To accept abuse is to invite abuse.
Stop putting so much emphasis on another person.
Stop allowing yourself to be manipulated.
Start trusting your gut and not outside influences.

You can't take care of yourself and the person abusing you;
you owe everything to yourself, and nothing to a user.
There is no cure for their sickness; they feign a need and
interest in you merely to push your buttons and play on your
compassion.

See it for what it is, not what their charms tell you it is.

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"Narcissists" Documentary: Revealing

A well-done, stunningly intricate delving into of the psyche and patterns.

Worth the time to watch; view it in segments if you can't get through
the whole thing in one setting.

And please pass it on to anyone you know to be involved with a narcissist or
even suspect of being involved. While dealing with the sociopath, one's idea
of what the rest of the world is all about gets turned upside down.

Some exposing of truths and tactics might just break through and save
someone's life.

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Chameleons

"Who do you want me to be?"
(I'll do it long enough to hook you!)

A narcissist will portray themselves as an expert, a super hero,

a successful person in any field broached in a discussion. But

don't subscribe to it; they're anything but objective or honest.

They follow their own agenda.

Even kindness is a ruse.

"It was like he knew what I was thinking; he said all the things

I wanted to hear."

Psychologically anticipating and then meeting  a need is
a specialty of the sociopath. You are  a tool to be used...
and if you see through their ruse then they will look to
elict empathy by playing the sympathy card, or try and
control you by raging and/or shaming you.

Whatever tools they can use, they will. Any means to an end.
That's all a human being--and their emotions--are to a socio.

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Cross Hairs

Sociopaths take a long time to figure out and recognize
for what they truly are.

They're cunning, patient...working long-range plans
with people. They're seductive and hard to read.

They're chameleons, and master liars.
They see right through to the heart of most folks,
employing psycholgical tactics and saying what we
want to hear... playing us like a banjo.

They distract you with their alluring charm, and they
don't wear emotions on their sleeves (if in fact they
have any.)

Their whole purpose is to use you..and they're quite
skilled at it. They've spent their whole lives in an inner
world of preparing and observing for how to manipulate
others and get what they want.

They actually get a joy from not only making fools of
people (and thus feeling superior,) but from any response
of pain that results.

Once you realize you're in their sights, it's probably quite
late in the game.

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Chicken or the Egg?

Just the other day I found myself in a discussion with
someone wondering the same thing I have; Is the
preponderance of powerful people with narcissism
indicative of those folks being drawn to those positions,
or do people become that way after becoming involved
in high level jobs/positions?

I think, really, it's rather a  moot point. The reality seems
easily evidenced that there is a direct correlation between
sociopathy and power.

It's safe to say that people who want constant approval
and accolades are going to be drawn to high stakes and
high rewards work.

Also easy to note that manipulators and con men and liars
do very well in politics, the boardroom, and the church.

So is it safe to say that these high-ranking positions of
control are tailor-made for someone who only mimics
human emotion but is not bound by it? That the ability
to separate from other people and work tirelessly on a
fanaticized goal is actually of benefit to those who manage
and puppeteer things at the top?

The fighting spirit, the ruthlessness, the 'by any means
necessary' attitude which has come to be synonymous with
corporate greed and commercialism is now the American
pass time. Tough choices, nonplussed by decisions, never
apologizing...these all suit a business person well.

And 'not looking back' certainly helps a sociopath get
ahead. Even if there was a chance they'd feel remorse
when looking back to see all the damage left in their wake.

The common thread in the leaders of our superficially
ideal society is that a pretty face is put on things while the
dark and insane realities of the inner workings makes a
hot dog production line look pleasant. Churches, law
enforcement, government, politics, business, and all the
rest have a selfish, devious, cunning approach to making
sure their agenda is done, and those being imposed upon
think it was actually their own idea!

So, did the people create the system, or did the system
create the people? And how on earth do we get out from
under this self-perpetuating monstrosity?

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